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DISCLAIMER: Not just talking about the love-kind of relationships now, but friendships, families, and so on. 'Aight?

In one way or another, keep in touch. I Skype with my boyfriend all-over maybe 6 days a week, with my mom at least once a week, and with my closest friends as often as I can. Same goes with text-chat via i.e. Facebook/Google+ and SMS. If you keep in touch and talk about everyday crap/fun, you will not necessarily feel THAT far away from each other.
I love getting random picture messages from my friends, they tend to make me laugh when I need it, and it brightens my day up, I also try to send something back.
Snail-mail might feel old school to some of you, but there is NOTHING that makes me feel closer to someone than a card or a letter that I can tuck away somewhere and read as many times as I feel like it.
With one of my closest friends I made a deal before I left for university: We are both writing some type of a journal, and when the year has passed, we will switch and read the other journal while together, so the moments don't disappear. Truth be told, I don't write as often as I should, but at least I do it once in a while, right?

All the people at home that I miss have my number in the UK, so they can get to me any time, and of course it goes the other way around, also, my pay as you go-sim has some kind of international twist on it, so I don't pay THAT much for texting them. :)
Did you have a movie night going on before you left? Keep at it! Watch the movie at the same time, and Skype while you are at it, I promise, the difference is barely noticable. Same with listening to music together, reading the same book, and so on.
Make the times you actually meet up mean something, make real memories out of them, even if it's simple things as taking a walk together. But don't forget to see other people at the same time, go out, have fun!
Remember that trust goes two ways.
I made a album before I left home with the most important people in my life in it, and also a couple of those classic "fun" pictures, from my 20th birthday-party, from I was 14 years old and a goth-kid, and those places I knew I would miss. Yes, it's boring and "old school" to actually have pictures on paper, and it kills trees, but I like it. Or you could frame them up and hang them everywhere.

That quote is a lie. Like the Portal-cake, it is.

Why? Because well, in the straight forward way of reading it, it is probably true, but you can pick what family members you keep in touch with, so therefore it is a lie. The problem shows up when it comes to your closest family, the ones you are told you NEED to keep in touch with.

I can say from my own experience that from time to time, you have to choose not to keep in touch, and just not talk to them, because some people, even people you are related to, will act as a black hole and suck all your energy and love and happiness away.

If you are blessed with a great family and everything usually works out with you guys, then keep them close, by all means! But if you are like me and have certain people in your family that just...breaks you, over and over again, go radio silent on them.

I happen to have a father who has never been around, not really. From time to time he will try, especially if he feels he has to because someone is nagging him, or because he earns something on it. From the outside, if you do not know the guy, he stands out as a great person, but as one of his kids, he is plainly not a good person. And to make life the best you can, you need to block people like that out of your life.

I can try and explain him, but it might be difficult to understand... He never finishes something, be it a job, a plan, a project, a relationship, a meeting, or painting a wall. I have no idea why this seems so hard for him to do, but it apparantly is. He just never finishes. And this would be OK, because some people are not made for finishing things they start, I guess, but this also goes for promises to people who happen to care. "I'll be there for your birthday." "I am building you a new computer for your birthday." "I PROMISE to show up at your confirmation." ...Riiiight, no, he never did. He never does.

Whenever he keeps his promises, is when he is forced or when something is in it for him. Like he allowed us to celebrate my 20th birthday at the hotel he ran at the time, because he earned on it.

He could not manage to drive 2 hours to see me before I left the country for my studies. He threatens family members, he acts like a child not getting his way.

To my point now, done being depressing. Even with the lack of a dad, I have grown up OK, I have a amazing mum, and a great uncle taking on the place as some sort of a daddy-figure for me when I was a teenager, as well as the boyfriend of my mum being there for me whenever. People can be replaced, even the closest family you have. You will be fine without them, from time to time it will hurt like hell to deal with it, but nobody are impossible to replace. Be strong, fight on, and you will end up fine in the end, just never allow them to take whatever they are struggling with out on you, because it is most likely not your fault. Deal with your own head, ask them to stay out of your life, and move on being awesome.

Welcome to 2012 people, make it epic.

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